Have you ever wondered when the idea of a rumor began? The Bible has reference to spreading rumors and lies on many of its pages. There are novels, movies, and television series based on the mere thought of a rumor. It is a topic that has been on my mind a lot lately. We seem to associate rumors with high school and the horrors that many kids face from bullying in those years but, these harsh words started way before our high school years. There are children spreading rumors from the moment they reach kindergarten. You see, they learn from observation. And the habits that they observe and take-on are carried into our later years.

We all learn from observation. I’ve been observing that you can learn a lot about a person by hearing how they speak about someone else. There are days where I observe people jumping out of their skin to tell their co-workers about the so-called stupidity of another. Where does this need come from? Why do we have to speak harmful words? But, most of all, why can’t we say these things to someones face?

If you are a person in your twenties you have likely been a part of gossip. You may have been the subject or you may have been the creator. What fuels yourlarge (2) need to spread anything hateful to other people? There are two very specific people in my life who speak maliciously each time I see them. My observations have made me trust these people less and less. When I hear the way they talk all I can think is, “What on earth do they say about me”? It is so easy for them to smile at the people that they hate and turn right around to bitch about them. So when you smile at me, you better bet I’m going to question what you’ve got to spread about me to other people.

We can probably each name a few fake people in our world and so I urge you to be become aware of the impression you’re giving each day. Do you want to be one of the rumor creators or do you want to be immune to it? I have made a pact with myself after realizing this pattern in society. I just keep quiet when I hear someone giving the cues that they want to share a secret. If I overhear something being wrongfully said I call that person out. How will we end this epidemic that is diarrhea of the mouth mixed with jealousy. It’s one of the most disgusting sicknesses that we’ve caught.

“Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.” – Proverbs 21:23

If you choose not to be the person who keeps themselves out of trouble you should believe that those of us who do will largebegin to look at you with disbelief, snub your pettiness, and walk away. Those of you who have been the subject have every right raise your voices to the haters. Those of you who have observed hatred toward a friend or acquaintance should not be afraid to tell the creator of the lies to stop. Let’s find the cure and be the cure. No one likes a gossip junkie and I certainly will not continue to put up with your nasty ways. Watch out world, the twenty somethings are the new warriors on words!

Have you ever noticed that it is very easy to give a smile and a simple response when someone asks you how you’re doing? I see a lot of people every single day and have lots of friendly exchanges. My job as a barista allows many “Hi, how are yous?” and “oh you know, living the dreams,” throughout the day. But, what does that mean? Writing today, I’m realizing that most twenty-somethings aren’t actually living the dream. So what is the dream? Having enough money to pay the bills. Having a significant other (or pet) to share your time with. Always having something to do on your nights off.

I honestly don’t know…

We each have our own versions of living the dream. I can tell you that my own dream consists of lots of dance and never having to think about money. After reading this article, The One Thing Most of Us Are Stressed About , I realized that maybe my dreams are just as unattainable as the rest.

I’m certainly not saying that dreams are wrong. I have followed my dreams and desires for most of my life and it has placed me at a point in my life that I am enjoying so very much. My dreams, however, might not be that realistic. As a society, and especially my generation, we tend to always be reaching for more. When the topic of money comes up, it’s as if we all let out a sigh and roll our eyes. I’m constantly wondering if my career will support a lifestyle that is filled with happy days. And, whenever money is the topic of conversation, we are never where we want to be.

Many of my coworkers, friends, and family can attest to the fact that I say I’m going to stop stressing about money at least once every two weeks. By the end of one of those two weeks, I’ve relapsed and begun to worry myself to sleep once more. I by no means want this to be my struggle but, it just so happens to be the case. So now, I write to figure out just what my goals can be to stop this worrying:

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Creating a Budget - Been there; done that. I have the app for it. I’ve talked to the experts; yet, somehow there is always an unexpected expense that drifts into view. The holidays, a new townhouse, and a new lease to name just a few.

401K – Yep, I’m a twenty-three year old with a 401K. And I still think that I’m broke.

Cutting Back – Nights out? Don’t have much to worry about there. Clothing obsession? Nope; not me. I’m serious here guys, I have no clue.

…okay so that didn’t work. This is where I come to you; my readers. What is it that you’ve done to ensure that money isn’t a high-stress factor in your life. How can we avoid it? Here’s where my advice just cannot be taken because I just don’t have a clue.

But I’ve decided to attempt to have a clue and here’s what I’ve come up with: there’s no way to avoid it so we’ll have to learn how to live with it. I feel as though this is actually an okay solution. When it comes to money problems take matters into your own hands. I look for babysitting gigs, raises where they might be deserved, and ways to get the most bang for each buck. Just stop worrying. Everyone around you is probably thinking about the same exact things which means that we’re all in this together. Smile to the person next to you. Let each of your friends know that it isn’t worth it to be upset. Life will go on and somehow it will always seem to work out in our favor. Sure, we might have to become creative but, in the end every single second will have been worth it.

If you worry too much about the money earning then you’re probably going to end up missing out on a whole lot of wonderful that you can spend the money on! Life isn’t cheap but happiness is worth every single cent. Live the dream without ever looking back.

It has been approximately a year and a half since I last decided to write out my feelings regarding being a “twenty-something”. A lot has changed since my last entry. As I read my past entries I notice that this  seems to be a common theme; you know, the whole “a lot has changed” bit. This entry has the potential to turn into a life update but, I’ve decided it will all come about with each blog I decided to make available.

As a twenty-three (swiftly approaching twenty-four) year old I’ve discovered that I like to give advice. This little fact could be one of the many things that makes me a successful dance teacher. My students seem to come to me whenever they need to vent or tell me about the latest progress in their lives. They’ve shown thanks for the support I offer and I can tell that they are genuinely comfortable around me. I really like giving pep-talks, especially when I see someone who I care for walk away a happier human being. This evening as I was on a short break I realized something about these pep-talks; I can never give myself advice of the same nature. I try; I mean I honestly have sat down and told myself that I can make it through a trying time. This never seems to work for me though, and I cannot help but wonder, why?

Tonight as I sat on this break I decided that it was time to get back to who I was when I was writing entries in this blog. There have been points in which I’ve been a happier person. Now, this does not mean that I am not a happy person. I am. I also am a complete stress-ball; a true type-A personality. I always want more and I when I’ve reached “more”, it isn’t enough. I want to be liked by all and want to make everyone else’s situation better.

I guess you could say I’ve placed some pretty hard standards for myself…

I’m offering what I don’t have. I don’t have the ability to talk myself up and to make myself a happier and healthier person. I don’t have the right words or thought process to transform my daily internal struggle with where I’ve gotten in life. What makes me think that I can give others advice? Why is it that I can create solutions to their personal problems without hesitation? I need to be there for myself. I cannot offer this to others without first offering it to myself.

This my friends, is why I am writing again. This is why I am reading as much as possible and whlargey I’m napping more. This is why I am spending the money I don’t have to treat myself to a massage and taking vitamins. I’m taking care of myself. I want to be the happy, go lucky girl I once was. I need to live and enjoy each moment. I need to go back to the way I was when I was a five-year old with not a care in the world with the exception of what I would be eating and who I would be playing with.

This is the beginning of my journey backward. A journey to a part of my life when I felt satisfied with where I was and who I had become. I want to find this person and be her again.

Wow! After an insanely eventful final semester I am glad to say I am back in the game. After spending a few weeks writing inspiring posts about slowing down and taking time to do new things or have new experiences you’d think I would have taken the time to write them all down. Instead, I got caught up in being a senior in college with a whole lot on my plate. Honestly, I wouldn’t trade a second of my last few months for anything else.

Lessons learned this semester include: always reaching out when your heart tells you to, take opportunities to travel, rediscover what you’ve lost, and don’t be afraid of being judged.

Reaching Out: This past semester I entered into a pre-existing group of friends with an anxious feeling of trying to belong. I had avoided showing interest because I wasn’t sure that I would fit in. Guess what! I did and almost instantly! This semester I found a beautiful family of students that I could spend tons of time with and enjoy conversations with constantly. I looked forward to my Tuesday nights and Sunday mornings like it was the only thing in my life worth living for…come to find out it kind of is!

Travel: This semester I took my choreography to New York City and performed with a fellow dance student. We had such an amazing time and I was able to get my name out there without being tied to a class. I learned a lot about being a solo dance artist and working with other people. I didn’t start a company by any means but I quickly realized that I could go for it and, with faith, be fairly successful. I also had the privilege of traveling to North Carolina with a beautiful cast for an MFA thesis project. Timing was no where near perfect! ImageWe were there for as long as we spent traveling to and from and it was the weekend before finals week. At first it was stressful thinking of the little time it would be but it proved to be so worth it! I had some amazing times with people who I love and will stay in touch with long after we’ve graduated.

Rediscover What You’ve Lost: The biggest news in my search to live fully as a twentysomething in the world today is that I finally found that something that was missing. It can sound fairly corny of me to say that even though I was happy and living a fairly fulfilling life there was something that I’d lost in my college years: my faith. This semester I reaffirmed my faith in Jesus Christ and I have never been happier.

Don’t Be Afraid of Being Judged: In rediscovering my Christian roots I realized that I can be afraid of what others might think. I will be open about my faith and will share with others about His love. People can choose to label me as weird or prissy but that isn’t the goal. I will love each person unconditionally in hopes that it will be returned. If it’s what makes me happy then I cannot worry about what others might think. Because as young adults, we have the power to keep ourselves happy and thriving in the world that we live in. We’re only here for so long!

Now that I’m back in my blogging mindset, I cannot wait to post weekly on being an inspired twentysomething, living a life full of adventure and love. I can’t wait to share the journey with you all once again! With love.

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This morning I’m thinking of how often people put themselves down. I have many friends who are in their early twenties who say “I’ll never make it” or “I’m so fat”. Hearing someone do this makes it hard not to reflect on your own personal shortcomings and dwell.

I have noticed that I myself tend to say good words about myself and this at times can make me seem over confident in my social network. I start every morning by looking in the morning and saying “wow, I look good today!” Do I always think that? No, but I make myself feel good by declaring that I am at my best. I’m trying not to say negative things when another person inquires about my day or asks how I’m doing. The more happiness we find in ourselves, the more we can help others harness their own happiness.

At our age we should be happy and healthy. Yes, we’re going to have bad days but by using words that encourage a healthy mind we can make it through and become even stronger. I believe that people that are our age should believe that they can conquer the world, should be able to notice their own beauty, and should become infectious. Be an encouragement to those who might be looking to you for help by exuding inner peace and light.

It’s your life; if you state that you’re happy and that you’re beautiful, eventually you are going to live it fully! So choose the right words today. Become a confident, young, radiant person.

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ImageI received notification that the beautiful blogger: http://inspiringthegirls.wordpress.com/ has nominated me for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award! I am so honored to know that others are recognizing me for being an inspiration! As I always say, simply knowing that I am inspiring others is an inspiration to keep writing. Since I am completing this entry today I will have something for you all within the remainder of the weekend!

I just recently began blogging but, I’ve always had an interest. My goal is to inspire people who are in their twenties who are going through major life changes to keep their heads up. I am so thankful for the things that have taught me to stay happy and positive no matter what happens and sharing this love is extremely important.

To complete this honor there are a few rules:

1.Display the award logo on your blog
2.Link back to the person who nominated you (just click HMC above)
3.State 7 things about yourself
4.Nominate 15 bloggers for this award and link to them
5.Notify those bloggers of the nomination and the award’s requirements.

Seven Fun Facts About Meghan:

1. I am a dance major in college.

2. I have super short hair and consider that a defining trait.

3. I come from a large family: 4 older brothers and 1 younger sister

4. It’s safe to say that grapefruit is my favorite food.

5. I have no shame in saying that I am in love with Harry Potter

6. I’m seriously obsessed with David Bowie

7. My sweet tooth is a monster!

Other inspiring Blogs! ( random order)

1. THIS IS MAJOR http://nicolekaplanblog.com/ (This blog is easily the most inspiring for myself! An MFA candidate in our dance program, she;s got some amazing stuff to say! I’m honored to know this woman)

2.  mmlefevre http://inspiringthegirls.wordpress.com/ (The lovely lady who nominated me and who keeps a seriously inspiring blog. Knowing what she’s going through makes her that much stronger!)

3. happysprout http://happysprout.wordpress.com/ (Through her beautiful photograph’s she is able to make the little things beautifully and wonderfully inspiring.)

4. Her Dancing Words http://herdancingwords.wordpress.com/ (Small glimpses of life and inspiring quotes give her a simple, lovely appearance!)

5. Alyssa Rose http://alyssarose52.wordpress.com (Keeping a wonderful outlook on life and inspiring those of us in similar situations, this blog is wonderful!)

6. Soul Kandy http://vtwest.wordpress.com/ (This blog has some great health tips and daily inspiration for living a good life! Definitely recommend a follow!)

7. Lifespotting! http://life-spotting.com/ (This blogger offers the smallest glimpses of a zen lifestyle and happy, healthy soul! Love it!)

8. as i see it http://perpetualflaneur.wordpress.com/ (A blog of absolutely beautiful thoughts and every day aspects of life. Giving us advice on approaching things differently and taking the high road in life!)

9. Thought Catalog http://thoughtcatalog.com/ (Although this blog is already an extremely well known one, I find a TON of inspiration through it. I have read amazing articles that have inspired me to take my life in new ways all the time!)

10. Gen Y Girl http://lostgenygirl.com/ (This woman has some really great advice and similar approaches to my own personal blog. I think that she has great stuff to say!)

11. Inspiring Life http://beautyexpressed.wordpress.com/ (Wonderful pieces of advice and inspiration throughout the entire blog!)

12. Body Karma http://karmabody.wordpress.com/ (This blog offers constant reminders to the beautiful quest of being happy and whole!)

13. Writer. Editor. http://megan-writes.com/ (This blog has wonderful little inspirational snippets of all of the aspects of life that matter!)

14. faithhooper http://faithhooper.wordpress.com/ (Talk about happiness!)

15. Enlighten My Senses ™ http://enlightenmysenses.wordpress.com/ (The importance of a spiritual place in life is really high on my list of happiness aspects. Check this blog out!)

Tomorrow: Look at the big picture, don’t get caught up in the little things!

If there is one thing I’ve discovered when trying to stay positive in life; it’s that writing thoughts and feelings down is a great strategy. Whenever I begin struggling with emotions or start running out of ideas for choreography I try to journal. Honestly, even if it’s just a scribble on a post-it note it can be an instant stress relief! That’s actually one of the reasons I began this blog. I knew that having a place to reflect on the positive nature of each aspect of life would help me to be at my best always.

It really hit me that writing helps after I realized that I hadn’t written an entry in almost 2 weeks! Generally the chaos of life becomes overwhelming and can really take a toll on your mental and physical health. Putting these feelings into words becomes an easy outlet Imagewithout having to burden others with your thoughts. Words are therapy and communication is important; including communication with oneself.

I recently decided to write all of my emotional turmoil down in a letter to someone. Originally this letter was for my own purposes however, after seeing the outcome I decided that it should be delivered. Having the ability to critically think of the correct phrasing to express my state of mind offered a personal therapy session. I was able to analyze what was happening within my head and decide what the important topics were to get off of my chest. I automatically felt as though the weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. The thought that someone would read this and know everything that I felt helped me to feel relieved of any animosity or discomfort. Sending the letter was even more of a relief because it sparked an important conversation.

If you take the time to write, whether it be for yourself and/or another person, you can create your own outlet for happiness. Expressing yourself is an extremely important aspect to mental and emotional stability. Taking the time for yourself to deeply look into your thoughts can help you to figure out your own solutions for problems that are wracking your brain. Knowing that you’ve solved your own problems is very rewarding. I truly believe that journaling, blogging, or writing letters to people will allow us to keep our heads up when we deal with 20something life!

“Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention.” ~ Greg Anderson

When the busyness of the new school semester hits you once again, or when Monday comes around in the work week it’s often hard to remind yourself to stop and simply breathe. Everybody tends to get caught up in simply getting through each day. This mentality of merely making it through the week; living from Monday to Friday, will not help anyone in the long run.

Today I began rehearsing for a third-year graduate MFA candidate’s thesis. We will be going from 9 am – 2 pm from Monday to Saturday for the next two weeks until the beginning of our school semester. Starting next Monday I will also have winter RA training all day following those rehearsals. Now that I am back into this full on schedule I am noticing things that I should do for myself in order to keep a peaceful and calm mind.

I began the morning by waking up at 7 am which gave me two hours to fully prepare for my dance rehearsals for the day. Immediately upon rising I made myself a cup of hot green tea Imageand simply sat and enjoyed it. The morning has something amazing to offer us: silence. The world around you is also beginning a new day and taking the chance to take it all in is quite amazing. Having this little extra time was really relaxing and got me off to a great start!

I did a 3 day detoxification cleanse (Dr. Oz Detox, you can see all of the information here http://www.doctoroz.com/videos/dr-ozs-3-day-detox-cleanse-one-sheet ) last week/weekend and it helped me to create some lasting health options that keep me pumped for the day. Since ending the cleanse I have still had a smoothie for breakfast every morning and have had a continuous amount of energy throughout my days. Some smoothies don’t offer substantial amounts of calories and fat to begin your day so I also have begun to add some whole grain options like an English muffin with honey. Starting your day with a healthy meal keeps you energized and ready to take on the world. Keeping a healthy diet also can help you overcome feelings of stress and anxiety.

Once the usual daily activities are done for the day it’s hard to want to do anything but sit on the couch and veg in front of the TV for the rest of the night. Doing so can cause one to dwell on the downsides of the day and simply lose track of the important things that help one enjoy their life. I strongly suggest taking the time to make your own dinner and sit down with music or silence surrounding you. Enjoying the fruits of your labor is extremely rewarding and often helps me to focus on the successes of my day. It’s also nice to know that you have the ability to make a delicious meal. I have gone through my day today feeling absolutely wonderful. It’s currently 11:43 pm and I’m full of energy but I’m also actually looking forward to waking up in the morning. I know that I have plans for tomorrow and that I have a routine to fulfill but that knowledge is more of a reward than a chore.

So take the time in your hectic schedule to create a routine that helps you to find peace in your day. You should always feel excited to keep going with your life, not dread waking up to “do the usual”. I strongly believe that what I’ve done for myself in the past week has led to my current energized state. Make things that are relaxing a scheduled part of your day so that you can reflect on your life and revel in the beauty around you. As 20somethings we’ve got a lot to think about: finances, jobs (whether it’s finding one or your current one), finishing school or beginning school, and so many other things. Why not take some time to not think about the worrisome aspects of life and take time to appreciate the beautiful little moments in each day.

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